Love in a metaphoric way of thinking can almost be seen as the title of this post, an empty womb. Many people yearn for love, to the point where often times they convince themselves that they infact are in love.
However that need for love is often times an emptiness hence the empty womb; constantly searching for love externally, and showering others with affection;yet this growing need for love is feeding off of your own emotions. You wonder why people walk over you, or why you tend to care so much for people and the feelings aren’t mutual. Well perhaps its that need for love as stated prior, you dish out your love to feed others in hopes (subcontiously) to receive their love, affection in return. In a sense you’re like a child constantly needing love and nurturing to grow. The truth is we as humans in some way or the other are like children. No matter how kind time has treated us, as days crumble and time fades, we ultimately need love.
Yet what do you do if you feel as though no one loves you? Well sometimes as people we overlook the slightest touch, we ignore the gentlest of kisses, unable to fully comprehend their value. God is one person who will always love you and although some people have a funny or unique way of showing it, they too infact love you. Yet do something that you love to do. For me it’s dancing and writing, these acts of expression are my loves and they love me. They bring me joy and such an overwhelming explosion of happiness every time my feet seep into the concrete or my fingers melodically become engrained into the keyboard, im at peace.
The point is that emptiness, “the womb”, needs to be filled with love. Understand that the love or acceptance you search for externally from others…needs to come from within first. That emptiness needs to be filled, love thyself, do what makes you happy, and understand that the radiance of your inner beauty, your self love and respect will shine through to your outer core. Despite your ups and downs understand that once you’ve reached rock bottom you can only go up. Your trials and tribulations are mere stepping stones in life leading you to your path of victory. So strive forward, work on your relationship with yourself and the rest will surely follow.

Pictures are worth a thusand words…But we don’t have time for all that.

Leave a comment and give a funny caption to any of these pictures.

1. Squirrel: I'm just trynna bust a nut man. Statue: ooh me too that tickles.

2. That little Ariel girl aint got nothin' on me! I've got the perfect bone structure for modeling.

3. And Billy, this is how babies are made.

4. Spying 101

5. He's redefined the term finger roll

Have fun.

-Carissa

No cuffing in the club gimme 20 dollars…seriously give me 20 dollars in fact give me 40 dollars because there is no way that my eyes enjoy seeing you SIR sticking your tongue down your girl’s esophagus… the end.

My eyes also do not appreciate seeing you home girl regurgitating you’re boyfriends saliva…*just saying*.  Maybe this is just me, maybe it’s my offbeat personality, or my “weirdness”, because to my friends who have boyfriends, I think this way because I’m single. -____-

Side eye to all of you!!!

No I think this way because I have sense, even if I had a man, if he even attempted to stick his tongue down my throat while I’m stanky leggin it, I’m sorry even he’s gonna get the side eye. Now I am currently the single friend in the group. YAAAAAAAYYYYYYyyyy (dies down) see being the single friend means you miss out on the boyfriend talks, the double dates, you get fixed with your best friend’s boyfriend’s pokemon playing 22 year old cousin blah blah blah

But allow me to clarify there is nothing wrong with being single especially if its by choice.

IT AINT FO EVERYBODY (playing games, leading people on, sleeping around) –if that’s what you do while your single more power to ya

I am genuinely the happiest I’ve been in a while, I mix and mingle with whoever I please, I can drop it like it’s hot at one party, twerk it at the other without worrying about offending anyone AND if one guy I’m talking to doesn’t work out well then… I’ll take my drink and my two step and I’ll be one to the next one.

Not to mention there is nothing wrong with treating yourself to a personal date where you treat yourself to something nice because just know the only thing worse than being the third wheel is being the seventh wheel; (le sighee) which in that case you should “bye girl fly girl”, and remove thyself from the equation. Honestly when it’s six plus one as the equation things can get uber awkward. –trust me I know -___-

just add two more couples and you get the picture

DON’T GET ME WRONG

There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship but after four years of five bad relationships it’s time for me to sit this game out. I’m personally benching myself after some major fouls, missing every possible free throws, yeah my season is up. (more…)

I’m guest-blogging for my peeps over at Thosegirlsarewild.com and this is what I had to say about two of my favorite ladies! Get familiar with them if you aren’t already.

WILD.

But what does the word really mean? If you ask the homies Merriam and Webster, they’ll reply with something like “wild(adj.): …not ordinarily tame or domesticated; wild ducks”. #Pause. That’s fine n’ dandy, but the site isn’t called thoseDUCKSarewild so that’s no help. And if you think Google knows everything, then think again.

Search images for “wild girls” and…

Daaaang, it’s like a trip down mammary lane. (       )(       ) More double D’s than Fantasia’s report card. Not exaaaaaactly what we’re looking for now is it? But try again! Except this time type “those wild girls” and…

Not exactly a wet T-Shirt contest now is it?

The fact of the matter is that over the past 17 months, Shannon and Andrea have redefined what it means to be WILD. Instead of showing all of their skin, they expose their big hearts to all. Instead of flashing boobies, they flash lights of inspiration into the minds on people all across the globe. These funny, ambitious, outspoken ladies are on a journey to take over the world with this movement, and I am proud to be a part of it. I’ve always known I was WILD, but Shandrea Lewdram has finally given me the word for a definition that I’ve known my whole life. They’ve inspired a great deal of my thoughts and actions.

Such as this one…

Humorous

And this one…

Determined

WILD is truly the best way to live! Sometimes the world can be a hectic jungle, so live free, hunt tirelessly for your dreams and embrace the wildlife, don’t just observe it.

Opinionated

If Those Girls Are the definition of WILD, then I have no trouble breaking it down for anyone who wants to know. 

So if anyone ever asks you how to be wild, tell them:

 WILD \ˈwī(-ə)ld\ (adj.): 1) Be free-spirited in nature, but strategic in pursuit of your goals. Dreams are only scripts, don’t just envision them, but rally up your supporting cast and act out your full length feature. Always have the confidence that you’ll make it to the big screen. 2) Inspire people. Life isn’t just about the steps you take, but also the footprints you leave behind for others to follow. 3) Be the life of life’s party. Be funny enough to make someone laugh at their own funeral because laughter makes life worth living. Have the courage to laugh at yourself without fear of being ridiculed. No one has a gavel authentic enough to judge you. 4) Always speak your mind; it’s the only thing that doesn’t speak for itself.

Synonyms: Shannon Boodram, Andrea Lewis, Carissa Williams.

Are you a synonym? Tell us! What makes you WILD?

-Carissa Williams

“Love is like sex. It always hurts the first time.” – Carissa

“Don’t Slip, Don’t Fall, Just Get A Grip My N***a Hold On, Don’t Lose Your Balance”–J. Cole x Losing Your Balance

I remember one time on Twitter I asked the question do you ever feel like you are having an out of body experience. Many people when looking at that question don’t get it or they don’t understand the context of what I mean when I ask about having that experience.

Let’s look at it from a different perspective, let’s say you are in a relationship that you know is going wrong, and it’s more than just your friends telling you that, you can see its not going anywhere, but with that in perspective you still stay for whatever reason. You are losing your balance.

Life hard.

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So I’m going through some hard times right now. Can’t really share with the whole internet, but your girl is hurting in a maaaaaaaajor way. Not on no dramatic ish, but I totally see why people do drugs when times are hard. In all honesty I’m slightly tempted to kick back with some Kush and Orange Juice while listening to KushAndOranjeJuice and forget about all my pain. BUT I know better than that (I’m an athlete), so I’ve compiled a short list of non-drug things to get high off of.

• Music
• Food
• Running/Working out/Sports
• Life

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Disclaimer wrote this blog last minute so please excuse:

Throughout my 18 years of existence I have met and dated my share of characters. In which each has taught me my own fair share of life lessons. However these characters to which I am referring to are indeed my past male counterparts for a lack of a better term. I can honestly say my relationships with all of them were similar to that of a flower in which  its beauty captures you, you become entranced by its mystery and wonder yet over time it’s luster diminishes and withers. The pain of these rocky relationships have led to some of my best poems, and artwork and ultimately some of my best lessons in life. Yet despite the different circumstances all these relationships ended due to one single common thread… Double standards. (more…)

Disclaimer: Please excuse the ridiculous analogies. I am crazy.

“You can never be in love with two people the same way, because you’ll never be the same after being in love for the first time” - Shannon Boodram

Let’s hit rewind. Run it back to when his heartbeat was still the instrumental to my smile. And mine was the metronome; With every rhythmic lub-dub of our synchronized hearts, we stayed on tempo. Our love felt like music, a symphonic expression of our emotions, beautifully arranged, and engineered in studio sessions beyond the midnight hour. Lyrics of our ballad tatted on my soul, I was in love.

But fuck all that love shit. (hit more to keep reading) (more…)

Numerous times have males diagnosed me to have a certain dreary disease, worse than the Black Death, the super contagious ABG syndrome also known as the Angry Black Girl syndrome. Funny how many of these males didn’t even know that Canada wasn’t part of the United States and yet they can diagnose me with having this ABG syndrome mmmmm (throwing all of them some shade + side eye) but I’m not even going to get into that. According to them I have all the symptoms of ABG: 1) the break your neck “Oh no you didn’t” head motion, 2) the “my eyes are gonna roll out of my head because I’m rolling my eyes so hard” eye roll, 3) the “don’t touch me” arms crossed stance and 4) the infamous “FUCK OFF” stamped on my forehead.

However I think few guys seem to realize the hot mess of characters I deal with on the regular. I feel as if sometimes I can’t walk down the street without being bombarded by rude and disrespectful sexual comments by males my age and older. (more…)